“Cancel Cancel”

Years ago, my husband Bill went to a corporate sales/ motivational /psychology session.  I remember he came home rolling his eyes a bit about the entire experience  (he’s not exactly the most open to pop psychology;)  But he did relay something to me that he learned  and it totally stuck with me and we use it on each other all the time now.

When you catch yourself engaging in “self bashing”, either in your head or out loud, instead say – out loud – “cancel cancel”. To this day, if I put myself down or say something like ‘I’m such a disaster” (i.e. when I can’t find my keys or think I’ve lost my phone despite the fact that I’m talking on it) he says “cancel cancel.”

So how does this little story relate to you, to personal style and to what I do in my business?  Hang in there with me, because it totally does.  Every day I speak to women – be they clients or friends, and I constantly hear  things like:

I hate my thighs.  I hate my arms.  I hate my butt.  I hate my tummy rolls. My boobs are too big (huh? really?)  I hate my wrinkles.

You get the idea.  And chances are you do the same thing; we all do.  But I want our little world of women to try our best to replace those negative self thoughts with positive ones.  And at the very least, when the negative thoughts creep in, instead say “cancel cancel”.   Try it, and use it on your friends and family as well.  It’s a great lesson to teach our kids too.

We are half way through my B.Styled 10 Day #justgetdressed Challenge.  Saturday 6/18 is Day 6 and the challenge is:

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Find something about your body that you love and embrace it and highlight it.  It could be your shoulders, your strong legs, you beautiful eyes or gorgeous hair.  Heck, it could be a great pedicure or manicure that you show off with sandals or a statement ring.  Find something positive and run with it!

And the next time the words….I hate my ______ come out of your mouth, immediately replace them with “cancel cancel.”

And click here to join the challenge and the amazing party we are having on the private Facebook group.  If you’re curious what the other challenges have been so far, scroll through them below  maybe try them yourself!

Now, go have a great weekend and #justgetdressed.

Cheers!  Beth

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Olive, Blush and Gold

Sometimes breaking out of a style rut can be as easy as pairing different colors using your basic foundations.

I love my olive cargo pants and usually default to wearing  them with black or white.   Today I decided to go really crazy (ha) and instead wear them with a blush t-shirt and some gold accents.  I added my favorite denim jacket for a comfortable, casual, layered look. Nothing complicated or terribly exciting, but an easy #justgetdressed outfit none-the-less;)

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Olive Cargo Pants (similar) (similar)

Blush Tank (mine) (similar in short sleeve) (similar tank)

Denim Jacket (mine)

Necklaces (short) (long)

Earrings (hoops)

Wedge Sandals (similar) (similar)

Cheers!  Beth

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One $20 Dress Five Ways

The “one and done” dress is a wardrobe staple this time of year.   I found this simple black tank swing dress at Target and created 5 easy, #justgetdressed looks using what was hanging in my closet.

The flirty, flattering A-line style is as comfortable as an item of clothing could be.  And as you can see from the slideshow, this little number can go from sporty-casual to dressy-chic, to casual Friday office-appropriate.   Heck, you could even throw it on over your bathing suit and head to the beach.

How’s that for easy, affordable and versatile??

Click here to shop all the looks (including an option for a maxi dress and a t-shirt dress with sleeves).  Now go #justgetdressed. 😉 Beth

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5 Fashion Mistakes That Can Make You Look Older

The term “age appropriate” has become a standard line when talking about how to dress, how to wear our hair, and even the polish we pick for our toes. In fact, I bet if I asked you to list the dressing “don’ts” of women over say 40-ish, you’d have a pretty easy time:

  • Too much cleavage
  • Jeans with too low a rise, exposing even more cleavage (ouch)
  • Wearing legging as pants (and not to work out)…..with a top that doesn’t cover the crotchal region
  • Wearing stilettos with jeans and a plunging neckline…too much vavoom is never a good thing and looks like you’re trying too hard.
  • Donning a crop top, any kind of crop top
  • Showing VPL’s (visible panty lines)
  • Wearing a ponytail, every day, all day (guilty here)

At B.Styled,  the problem I see more often is the opposite one.   I find the fashion mistake women tend to make is dressing too old rather than too young and  It is so gratifying to help women find a personal style that is just right for them.

The reasons many women spiral into the rut of dressing beyond their years vary. The short list includes:

  • weight changes
  • foot issues
  • what they define as “comfortable”
  • a lack of time and/or interest in keeping up with what is current
  • letting themselves fall to the bottom of their priority list.

Many women tell me they are at a loss as to where to shop and what to shop for.  Even though women account for 85{4459afbc2bae7cce36afa98505acda452d7cfe9eff579bae0d40077b3c526282} of consumer purchases, approximately 40{4459afbc2bae7cce36afa98505acda452d7cfe9eff579bae0d40077b3c526282} of them hate to shop, citing feelings of overwhelm and lack of self-confidence. Dressing room depression is real and a very common issue. My goal is to help my client find that sweet spot – a look that is comfortable and easy, while helping her look and feel her absolute best, no matter her age.

Here is my list of the top 5 fashion mistakes that can make us look older and how to easily fix them:

1. Wearing black, black, and more black: Raise your hand if you have a closet full of black clothing and accessories and have the irresistible urge to always “buy it in black”. There’s no doubt that black has always been the wonder drug when it comes to looking slim and sophisticated. But let’s face it ladies, as we age, our skin tone tends to go paler, so we need to brighten ourselves up a bit. Go ahead and wear black, but not so close to the face. Add scarves, jewelry, colorful tops and jackets to accent your black foundation and provide a needed palette pick-me-up. Not only will this allow you to show your personality, it will take years off your looks and improve the image you are projecting.

2. Over draping: Weight gain and weight “redistribution” is probably the #1 issue I hear from clients as a reason for getting into dressing ruts. They want to cover up and hide the added pounds, but adding more volume with clothing is not the way to go. If you are draping to hide a fuller-on-the top or fuller-in-the-middle proportion you are only creating a more obvious imbalance, making you appear even larger on the top and smaller on the bottom. Instead, opt for something that follows your curves, not hides them. This is where a great fitting, tailored, (not stuffy) jacket is your secret weapon. Don’t believe me? Let me help you find one and you’ll see for yourself;)

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A fitted jacket is a game changer. It adds structure to this flowy blouse, and the espresso color is softer than stark black. (Say “hi” to Tessie the photo bomber;)

 

3. Shoes that weigh more than you do: I am the (former) owner of clunky dansko clogs. Yes, they are comfortable. Yes, they are great for nurses and new moms and working in the garden. No, they don’t look good. If you insist on wearing them, please stick to long wide leg jeans or long boot cut yoga pants. Anything else is just wrong. Find a cute flat or pair of comfortable,  low heeled booties instead.  I will get hate mail for this one I know, but I’m standing firm. Sorry, Dansko.

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I speak the truth.

4. Outdated eye glasses: Glasses are an accessory – and an area to have fun and show your personality. They are also a focal point, so you want to make sure that you pick a pair that doesn’t age you. You want to avoid boring and outdated frames and frames that droop downward.

Go to a reputable optometrist with professionals who can help you find the best pair for you.. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing eyewear:

  • Try to add warmth and softness to your face. Translucent colors are often better than hard metals.
  • Add color: one of the easiest ways to add a bit of hipness to your style.
  • After 40 you want things to go up not down, so choose frames that are horizontal and have a slight tilt at the outer edges. You will want the eye to be drawn upward!
  • Get glasses that suit your face shape.
    Great glasses are the most functional and important accessory you will own.

    Great glasses are the most functional and important accessory you will own.

5. The sisters need a new bra: Eight out of ten women are wearing the wrong size bra. Seriously, would you walk around in the wrong size shoes? This is an an easy fix to make you look ten pounds lighter and ten years younger. A well-fitted bra will also help you have better posture, a perkier looking chest – and you will just look better in all your clothes. Clients who have had their first professional bra fitting swear by it as a real game changer. Need a referral? Contact me.

 

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So, there you have it….Conquer these 5 issues and take 10 years off your look;)

Seriously, growing older is a blessing and I know I wouldn’t want to go back in time (well maybe to college…but just for a weekend or two). You deserve to look and feel your absolute best at every stage of life, so make yourself a priority, and rock your best personal style. I’m here to help!

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Stripes and Dots

Today is Day 19 of the #21daychallenge and it’s all about stripes and polka dots — probably the most classic and versatile patterns out there and a great way to add interest to your look.  Similar to leopard print, you can think of dots and stripes as you would a neutral  since they blend and mix so well.   I decided to combine both dots and stripes, tying the contrasting elements together with a unified color scheme.   I started with jeans and a Splendid navy and white striped t-shirt.  I decided to bring in hot pink with this fabulous new scarf I found at none other than Target for $11.99!    The  hot pink cardigan  ties it all together.  Finally, I added this fun belt and I like how the geometric print works with the other patterns and it works since it uses the same color scheme.

So as you experiment with pattern-mixing this spring and summer, remember your dots and stripes and have fun!

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Now is a great time to go through your t-shirts and see if you are all set with this closet essential for the spring/summer.  I’ve found these solid, slub T’s by Madewell and it’s my new favorite.  The cut and neckline is flattering and functional.   And right now (until 4/9)  you can take 25{4459afbc2bae7cce36afa98505acda452d7cfe9eff579bae0d40077b3c526282} off with code SPRING25, bringing them to $18.75 with free shipping for a quality t-shirt. Not bad!  Click HERE to shop them:

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Now, #justgetdressed.

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White After Labor Day? Yes.

WHITE AFTER LABOR DAY? Yes, indeed.

It’s time to hash out the annual question about the  No White after Labor Day “rule” that many of us grew up following.  I saw this graphic on Pinterest and thought it said it all:

Do you find yourself asking WWJOD (What Would Jackie Onassis Do) when getting dressed this time of year? To end the style debate—here is the definitive answer on when wearing white is appropriate. Design and copy by Amy Sly for BuzzFeed

So, if you’re wondering if this a rule you can break without the fashion police coming after you, take a look at how fabulous white jeans after Labor Day can look..Thank you pinterest for the images.  And see below for some tips on how to make the look work of you.

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Tips for how to make this look work for you in the “real world”:

Change out  your accessories. A rich colored handbag, leather riding boots or suede ankle booties all  help to transition white denim into your fall wardrobe.

Add some heavier seasonal items to your white. Think wool or cashmere sweaters and blazers in substantial fabrics.

Watch your fabrics. White denim or corduroy, and “winter white” pants in wool blends absolutely work. Anything linen or in light weight cotton need to be relegated to your summer wardrobe.

So, go ahead, keep those white jeans in the front center of your closet.  Need to update your white jeans? Click here to shop my favorite brands and styles.

Now go #justgetdressed.

Cheers!

Beth

 

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