Parent’s Weekend: What to Wear

It's been about 6 weeks since you dropped your fabulous offspring off at college.  If this is his or her freshman year, you may even miss him/her.  I'm kidding -  of course we miss them, regardless of how long they've been out of the nest.    

But fear not.  Most colleges host a Parent's or Family Weekend sometime in the fall, so you get a chance to see your kid in their new environment. I've been to 2 of these so far and here's some brief insight before I tell you what to pack/wear. (FYI,  this packing guide can work for any casual fall weekend).

1. Best to have low expectations and then be pleasantly surprised. 

2. If at all possible, make dinner reservations. Most of the time the campus will be a complete zoo and this could result in lots of aimless walking and long lines.

3. Have your kid invite any friends whose parents aren't making the trip. ( This year, that's us. So, anyone at Miami University in Oxford, OH...my son is free for dinner;)  

4. Football tailgates and pre-gaming is fun, but remember it's not 1988, and there's no need to shotgun that beer. Your child will thank you for taking a hard pass. 

Ok, that's all I have for you as far as practical tips.  Now let's get to the important stuff...

What to wear.

Here's a handy capsule wardrobe you can shop your closet for and pack accordingly. Substitute with what you have.  

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As you plan, here are a few do's and don't  to keep in mind:

  • DO wear comfortable shoes.  Hands down, the most important tip.  My go-to is my slip-on sneakers and low heel, comfortable and waterproof booties.  Your favorite loafers are a good choices as well.   Needless to say....this is not a time to break out the heels.
  • DO plan on weather changes.  Especially if you're traveling, wear layers, bring an umbrella, and have a neutral jacket on hand.  

    I love my black ponte blazer because it's so very comfortable, easy to pack, and polished looking without being stuffy. 

    An olive field jacket is another versatile winner because it's on-trend without being trendy...and you'll blend in with the scenery which is your goal.  Another go-to is  my all-time favorite denim jacket - it's just cool enough without screaming "I'm 50+ years old and want to look like a teenager."
  • On that note:  DON'T dress for fashion.  Yes, you can be fashionable, but trust me, your kid doesn't want you to draw undo attention to yourself.  
  • DO bring a scarf to add some personality to your neutral look.  Scarves serve multiple purposes including adding some warmth, keeping your head dry in unexpected downpours, and covering the inevitable stains. 
  • And remember my cardinal rule: put on a necklace...Heck, it's college, so go crazy and put on TWO necklaces.  And hoop earrings.  Now you're good to go.

So, what makes this a Capsule Wardrobe? Well basically it's like Garanimals for Adults...All the pieces are chosen because they can be mixed and matched together to make innumerable outfits. 

Dress it up or down with jewelry, shoes and substitutions as needed. For example, need to have a dressy outfit? Swap the burgundy v-neck  for a dressier top like this, and swap the booties for a comfortable heel like this, and you're good to go! 

Use this capsule for any casual fall weekend at all. And if you are visiting your kiddo, have a great time! 

Now, go #justgetdressed.

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What Color Shoes to Wear?

I've said it before, I'll say it again...Shoes make (or break) the style.  An outfit can go from meh to marv with a great shoe.  But on the flip side, it can go from fab to frump with the wrong shoe. 

Every foot is different and many of us have "foot issues." But the good news is that comfort shoes are more readily available now in flattering styles, so we don't have to give up style to keep our feet from screaming. 

I am often asked what COLOR shoe to wear with various outfits, and like everything else, I like to simplify things. That way we don't go out and buy a zillion shoes in every color known to man (you know who I'm talking to;) 

Here's a simple rule of thumb to use when deciding what color shoe to wear to make sure your outfit sings:

Pick a shoes that matches/coordinates with your

  • SKIN -- your #1 most important and versatile shoes for obvious reasons (i.e. versatility, leg lengthening and flattering-factor)
  • TOP - i.e. your shirt, jacket or third piece
  • HEM  - i.e. the color of your pants or skirt -  or the predominant color at the bottom of your outfit.
  • ACCESSORIES - matte metallic shoes work wonders here as they are an elevated neutral and you can tie in your jewelry, handbag, etc. 
  • MAKE A STATEMENT - here's where you can add a contrasting color, a pattern or an animal print and have some fun! 

Here's a handy-dandy graphic to help you visualize: 

Click here to shop my Stella & Dot accessories (including the awesome black top!) 

What's your favorite choice? Do you have a go-to shoe you love that is comfortable AND good looking? Please share...we're always on the hunt for those Unicorn Shoes! 

Now, go #justgetdressed 😘

P.S. DON'T MISS OUT! You can know exactly what shoes to wear (and everything else too) this fall simply by grabbing my Fall Style System....A list, a plan, done-for-you outfits and NO more willy-nilly shopping! Click Here to sign up and use code spice15 for first time members.

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What #justgetdressed really means

I talk to women like you every day who have a love/hate relationship with clothes and "style"...and shopping.

There is so much information out there and so many options (most geared toward younger women). Learning to dress with style can be confusing and overwhelming....and it's easy to just give up.

I promise It doesn't have to be complicated or irritating to #justgetdressed each day.   But like learning anything, it helps to have a teacher or coach helping you along the way. That's what I'm here for. 

I'm not a fashionista though. I'm just a regular woman like you who has worked with hundreds of women in every shape and size figure out how to #justgetdressed (and actually enjoy the process).

And what the heck do I mean when I say #justgetdressed? 

First, let me tell you what #justgetdressed does NOT mean:

  • Getting dressed UP.
  • Spending hours of time, loads of money, and too much energy, on your appearance.
  • Crafting elaborate, complicated  "outfits" every day.
  • Uncomfortable shoes or stiff, high-maintenance clothes.
What #justgetdressed DOES mean is using clothes to your advantage.   What you put on your body each morning has a huge impact on your day. You can (and should) start the day with confidence and love the way you look. 


 It may sound cliche, but without a doubt, when we like the way we look, we’re happier.

We have more fun. We're more open to new experiences and new people. We're more confident. We're better wives, mothers, and friends.  Believe it or not, I also think we eat more healthfully and take better care of our bodies.


I developed the B.Styled Seasonal Style Systems to take the guesswork out and simplify the process....

...and to make personal styling affordable and accessible to EVERYONE. 

You can learn more about the current Seasonal Style System by clicking HERE. And of course, if you'd like more one-on-one help, feel free to learn more HERE and reach out to me.  

Also, you can grab my freebies here:

5-Day Style Bootcamp

5 Steps to Elevate Your Look...at any age.

What's your biggest struggle when it comes time to #justgetdressed. Let me know below; I'd love to hear from you!

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Fighting the Frump Slump

Ever ask yourself, "Why bother to #justgetdressed when I’m not leaving the house?"

I do it all the time.

I think back to my days as a stay-at-home mom, and now a work-at-home mom and almost empty-nester.  These are conditions that make it very easy to fall into a frump slump. 

I remember spending days on end in those black bootcut yoga pants we all wore -- with my black patent dansko clogs.  

Day in. Day out.

I thought I had found the holy-grail of mom-clothes.

What I had really found was a style rut.

Were you there with me?  We’ve all been in style ruts. We’ve got a lot on our plates, and we need to be comfortable. 

But the reality is being stuck in a style rut DOES affect our mood and self confidence.

Sometimes we don’t adjust our wardrobe to our new lifestyles.  

Maybe you have a closet full of professional “work” clothes, but now work from home or in a more casual environment. 

Or maybe your lifestyle is a jeans-and-sweater one, but you haven’t updated your jeans or sweaters since 1990. 

I see it all the time.  So many of us have clothes for a lifestyle we don’t live anymore.

Literally, a closet full of clothes but nothing to wear. 

But, I’m going to share with you a simple truth:

When we like the way we look, we’re happier.

So back when I was in my yoga pant rut, I decided to rebuild my wardrobe.

Only this time, I focused on buying fewer (but better) pieces that made me feel good about myself and my new lifestyle.  And I learned how to take basic formulas and change them up to create fresh new looks.

It took some time, some research, and some hits and misses, but in the process I figured out formulas and strategies and techniques.

B.Styled was born from my love of sharing these breakthroughs with other women like you.

I’ve been helping women #justgetdressed for the last 10 years. Over the years, I've noticed a few patterns and  I hear many of the same issues from my clients over and over.

Nobody wants to face the morning stress of choosing an outfit… but we get tired of wearing the same thing day after day.

Above all, women tell me they want to feel good in their clothes again, without the fuss, and without spending a ton of time and money. 

That’s where the B.Styled Style System fits in. 

When I work with clients 1:1, we begin by filling her closet with great basics. Once we’ve built the foundation, we add in a few trends, or accent pieces to highlight her personal style.

In the fitting room, or in her closet,  I walk her through exactly how to mix and match her choices to create tons of new outfits, so she's ready for the entire season.

She looks better than ever. Beyond that, she'll tell me she feels better than ever.  This is what drives me to do what I do. 

And it's exactly how the  B.Styled Seasonal Style System was born.

I started the Style System so that I could reach more women and give you that same experience—in a way that’s both affordable and fun. 

Click below to join the Fall Style System...you won't regret it -  I promise. 

These are the facts:

  • You need to stop spending money on pieces you’ll never wear just because someone says they’re “in”.

  • You can feel comfortable AND well-dressed without “dressing up” everyday.

  • You can put an end to frantic mornings where you’re stressing over what to wear. 

  • You don’t have to replace your entire wardrobe every season or every 6 months. 

  • You should never...EVER...pass up an invitation because of stress over what to wear.

  • You can #justgetdressed in looks you love and still feel comfortable, and use formulas that still let you express who YOU are.  

It’s easier than you think.

Through my on-line styling programs,  I’ll walk you through the entire process - and hold your hand too if you want;) 

Click here to learn more and join the Fall 2019 Style System

You'll get free access to my popular B.Styled Closet Cleanse as well.

Now my friend, go #justgetdressed

😉

Beth

P.S. Have questions about  B.Styled or my Style System?  Click here, and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.

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My Top Beautycounter Picks

I am excited to be partnering with one of my favorite brands,  Beautycounter.  I've been a long time customer and now I am also a consultant so I can share the products with you.

I always (naively) assumed that  "someone" was insuring that the stuff in the products our family puts on their skin and in their mouths were tested for safety. However, the amount of chemicals in some of the products  we use daily is shocking. Since learning more, I have made an effort to move my family over to  more safe products, especially the things I use on my skin daily, like these products.

Like many premium, high-quality brands, Beautycounter is not "discount-happy", meaning the price is the price, and the value is there, and you won't see a lot of crazy promotions.  When they do have a sale a couple times a year, I'll be sure to let you know!

Here are my favorites picks that I use religiously: 

OVERNIGHT RESURFACING PEEL –

This peel is a game changer.  You put it on before you head to bed and it helps bring your dull skin back to life and shows almost immediate results (unusual, I know, but true).  You will feel this peel when you put it on; I use it at least 3 to 4 times a week.  If I HAD to pick one item to get - this product would be it, hands down.  I'm using the sale to get more.

This new line was of interest to me because of my interest in retinol products to reduce lines and wrinkles. However retinol is an ingredient on the Beautycounter Never List

Retinyl palmitate (Vitamin A Palmitate)
Retinyl palmitate is an ingredient composed of palmitic acid and retinol (Vitamin A). Data from an FDA study indicate that retinyl palmitate, when applied to the skin in the presence of sunlight, may result in adverse health consequences like lesions and photosensitization. FDA, Norwegian and German health agencies have raised a concern that daily skin application of vitamin A creams may contribute to excessive vitamin A intake for pregnant women and other populations.

I started using the Countertime serum (am and pm) and the (amazing) Supreme Cream at night.

I have continued using the No.1 Facial Brightening Oil (see below) in the morning (before the serum), and the Resurfacing Peel (above) every other night (instead of the serum). 

 I love the results I've had from this routine.   I'm going to add the Countertime cleansing oil and hydrating essence as well. Unfortunately Countertime products are not included in the 15% off sale.

I’m a huge fan of using vitamin C on my face, and this stuff is so good! I use it every morning under my Countertime serum and daily moisturizer.

I've been using this now for almost a year and  I really love it.   I use it 2 to 3 times a week to deep-clean. It absorbs excess oil and draws out impurities. Even at my age I tend to have enlarged pores and even get zits and this has helped tremendously.  Activated charcoal minimizes the appearance of pores, giving skin a smooth, refined appearance, while salicylic acid stimulates exfoliation.

Lipsticks!

I'm obsessed with Beautycounter lipsticks.  The fact that something going so close to my mouth is safe is obviously important, and I also love the way they glide on, how they taste and smell, and the colors!   If I could only have one type of make-up, I'd pick lipstick.  I feel naked and washed out without it (and you an use it as blush in a pinch;)

 I use the lip gloss (love dahlia), the color intense duo (longer lasting, bolder color - 2 universally flattering colors that I layer or wear alone) and the Sheer Lipstick is what I have in my pocket and in my car at all times (usually in Rose), but I'm a lipstick fanatic so I have several shades.

These are just my standout favorites for today, but some other products that I use daily include the dew skin (shade 3 and 4 in summer) and tint skin (sand) - I use a dab of both and combine.  I also love the blush (sorbet), this eyeshadow palette (Romantic) and this brow pencil

The Romantic eyeshadow palette has 2 dark colors that can be used easily to line as well. I just dampen a thin, angled brush - slowly but surely am getting the hang of it! 

A new feature on the Beautycounter website is #betterbeauty School with easy-to-follow videos to help us with make-up application.  I just watched the brow tutoial...boy, was I doing it wrong!  Live and learn!  https://www.beautycounter.com/products/beauty-school

Again, if you're interested in trying Beautycounter or restocking your favorites, this Friends and Family Sale is the time to do it!  Let me know if you need any help or recommendations! 

Thanks for stopping by my corner of the internet.  I appreciate your time and support so much!  Cheers,

Beth

Take the “5 Things” Challenge

Today I issued a mini challenge over in my  Summer Style System program, and it is also the inspiration for today's Tipsy Tuesday - see below for the video.

Here was the prompt, and I encourage you to do this exercise as well: 

Day 19: Summer Style System - A Special Wardrobe Challenge

Today we're doing something different to help us stretch our formula-building muscles. Are you ready? Of course you are:

FIRST: Identify the 5 pieces you've worn most this SUMMER.

Take note of WHY you've worn them the most. OR do you just "default" to them out of ease and maybe even some laziness? We ALL do this - no judgment at all.

Are they very comfortable, versatile, flattering to you? Maybe write down what it is you love about the items and the next time you go shopping - keep these characteristics in mind. Is it the neckline, the rise or cut of the pants, the style of dress? The comfort-factor? The color or the way it makes you feel?  

Give yourself a few minutes to determine WHY you reach for these items time and time again. 

NEXT: Build an outfit using NONE of the 5 items you identified.

Was this difficult, or did it help you try different, neglected items?

Please feel free to share your findings over in our private group.

...And if you want a done-for-you formula to use with this exercise, just pick one of the 21+ formulas  in the program. 

Outfit with NONE of my Five Things, but with my EVERY.DAY sandals

Isla dress in blue or white

MY 5 most worn items
1. White Jeans: Mine are Paige Skyline Skinny, but they are pretty worn out and I am going to try these K from K boyfriends: http://bit.ly/33gVSBC
2. Isla Dress in Blue or White: ​https://www.discoverpeach.com/products/isla-dress?color=PACBLUE&stylist=bethr&taxon_id=470&utm_campaign=shared&utm_source=stylist
3. Denim Shorts (agolde, not aglode as I called them!): http://bit.ly/2XBD38k
4. Hoops: https://www.stelladot.com/shop/jewelry/earrings/hoops… I have small hammered oval hoops in gold and essential hoops in silver.
5. Gray Tee Dress (many colors): https://amzn.to/2HFSI1w

Bonus #6
6. My EVERY.DAY sandals: http://bit.ly/2XslXtm

Also...

Stella & Dot SALE/Clearance Items: https://www.stelladot.com/shop/sale?s=bethroy
I have the fleetwood fringe cuff, the Natia Necklace, Margeaux Clutch, Geometric Scarf...Also, check out the bell sleeve stripe top!

Now, go #justgetdressed.

xo, Beth

Change Your Pants and Change Your Life

“Change your pants and change your life.”

Beth

Ok, ok, I know that's hyperbole, but stay with me here.

When I work with my private clients, the first thing I have them do is show me their pants. This is not usually a popular request, but it's necessary.   Listen in to Tipsy Tuesday to learn more, and see some suggestions below.


Examples of the 4 Powerful Pants (from my closet): 

Thank for checking in...now go check your pants!  Need some help?  Message me or head over to my #justgetdressed Facebook Community for advice.

xo, 

Beth

How to #justgetdressed when it’s HOT

SUMMER STYLE SYSTEM: https://bstyledbybeth.com/summer-style-system/

Gray T-shirt Dress (many color options: https://amzn.to/2lOCf2B (see below for pic)

Gold Choker: https://www.stelladot.com/p/gold-celestial-choker?s=bethroy

Go-to Sandals: https://shopstyle.it/l/5WxP

Turq bracelet/necklace: https://www.stelladot.com/p/hart-versatile-bracelet-turquoise?s=bethroy

Embroidered Top: https://amzn.to/2keQixO

All my shopping in picks: https://bstyledbybeth.com/lets-go-shopping/

Peach Site-Wide 20% Off including sale items. ...only happens 2x year...Black Ponte Blazer from Essentials Collection shown below: http://www.discoverpeach.com/s/bethr

Jewelry Essentials

Just like I talk about the importance of your 10 Wardrobe Essentials, I also think there are basic jewelry essentials that you need to have at the ready, all year 'round.  

I also recommend having your jewelry (especially the Essentials) hanging in or near your closet, so you can grab it every day with ease.  It doesn't have to be an elaborate or expensive set-up either.  I bought these S hooks  for pennies and hang my necklaces on a rod in my closet similar to the picture below.  The easier it is to grab and put on, the more likely you'll do it and follow my "necklace-every day" rule;)   

UPDATE: I have a Stella & Dot on-line trunk show running through November 1, 2019.  You can shop all the items mentioned below and more here: www.stelladot.com/ts/sc864  Get 50% off any of these great items with a $50 order during August.  

My favs? I have the filligree pendant, the hoops (I have gold), convertible poncho, and my fav statement necklace - the fringe!  The studs are on my wish-list.


Summer Prep Challenge: Week Three – Skincare!

This week, the topic of our Summer Prep Challenge is SKIN!

The name of the game for summer skin is hydration, moisturizing and sun protection. 

 Chances are these are things you are already doing, so let's just make an effort to be more consistent and intentional about these healthy skin habits, ok?

1.  Drink your water!  This first habit we started  with a few weeks ago is so important for your skin too, so keep it - down the hatch!

2.  Exfoliate! Exfoliation is the removal of dry/dead skin cells on the surface of the skin and is one of the most important aspects of your  skincare routine. Exfoliation not only helps many skin problems, it also increases blood circulation, which in turn helps you to achieve healthy and glowing skin. 

I use this body wash and this exfoliating wash cloth that I love (it's inexpensive, washable and makes it easy to reach your back and shoulders.) For a budget body wash, this Oil of Olay Age Defying Body Wash comes highly recommended too. 

3. Moisturize!  I learned about this moisturizer with 12% Glycolic AHA from Angie at Hot & Flashy (my favorite over 50 YouTuber) when researching what to use to help with crepy skin, especially on my legs.  I use it all over my body now and find it is really helping.  The key is to apply it right after you get out of the shower to lock in the moisture.  During the summer  months when I'm showing more skin, I mix in a few drops of this oil for added moisture and a healthy glow.   

4.  I think we've all (hopefully) gotten really vigilant about using a quality sunscreen on our faces (I use this sunscreen under this  SPF make-up, and carry this stick with me everywhere.  I also occasionally touch up with this powder suncreen).

I confess though, in the past I have been less diligent about protecting my skin on my body.  I have fairly dark skin that doesn't burn easily but that is no excuse for being lazy or negligent with regard to sun protection.

I just ordered this tinted sunscreen:  the innovative formulations match a wider range of skin tones—and also help camouflage imperfections and even skin tone.  Formulated with non-nano zinc oxide, these mists sit on top of the skin and bounce the sun’s rays away from the skin. (Plus, they’re air-powered—no aerosol!)

So as summer approaches,  along with the showing of more skin....let's work to protect and take better care of the skin we're in!  

And #justgetdressed!

Cheers!

Beth